I suppose I should be more specific with my complaints. Although it really matters little on a cosmic level. Wait, I take that back, maybe it is the only thing that matters on a cosmic level.
How we treat each other is really all that is important isn't it? And that is true for everyone I think. But for friends, to me, it holds more weight.
Recognizing that we are imperfect, means there will be disagreements. There will be disappointments. There may even be times when friends are acting in ways that perplex us. And still, I think that the title of friend comes with certain responsibilities, that mean we have to deal with that.
I'm not talking about situations like discovering that he is a child molester, or serial killer, or the Secretary of Defense. Nothing that rises to that level of seriousness. Just the everyday stuff people go Through.
Skipping Re-Bar on a Sunday, is called flaking, it happens (I didn't do it) it's not serious unless it happens all the time. (Flaking on peoples birthdays-another story) Fucking peoples laptops up every time you touch them is annoying as all hell, but it's not serious unless it involves a Dremel. Sleeping with a different person every night is being a slut, but unless one (or more) of them is your boyfriend, then it's not serious.
Yes, friends will "borrow" your clothes (and your porn)-if they weren't friends, it would be called stealing. They will borrow your car and return it with an empty tank and a note saying they parked it on a downhill grade. They may even up and move to another city and claim it's for the weather or a better job or both.
These are part of friendship. Parts that you get over, or work through, or sometimes even learn to like. Knowing that I have another wardrobe at Jeremy's implies a closeness, that means something to me. Knowing that most of that wardrobe belongs to Gustavo, well that's icing. As long as Richie doesn't leave my clothes at a tricks house, then it's not serious. That favorite porn that I left at Kenny's is really much much better 6 months later when Aaron returns it than it would have been anyway. And the moving thing, well that's....actually that is just fucked up. ;*
Then there are things that happen that are serious. Friends sometimes fuck up. They may cheat on their boyfriend. Maybe they screw up at work and get fired. Maybe they have a drug or alcohol problem. Or maybe they just ran out and are pissed off. Maybe they got a dog and have no clue how to take care of it, nor intention to get a clue. If situations like this happen, then FUCK THEM. Jump up an down bang pots and pans, kick em out of the house, and then bitch because you don't have any friends.
Okay, that was sarcasm. These things happen. When they do, friends are the ones that are left when everyone else has gone. Like the lyrics by Sarah McLaughlin "everybody loves you when you're perfect." Friends have more responsibility than that. When your friends go Through these things, it is your toilet bowl they puke in, your couch they sleep on. If you live with them, guess who is walking that dog? If you are lucky, all you have to do is hang out while they work through it. Is that so hard? Maybe. But if you can't do it, the alternative is the pots and pans thing. And the bitching about not having friends is only true because you didn't know how to be one.